Did she make you want to throw something across the room at her oversized head? There are many women out there who find that the ex-wife isn’t always the cool and down-to-earth person they hoped she’d be.No matter how you feel about his previous squeeze, you can’t let on.This also means you can’t jump into a “relationship” with him.
It makes you want to squeeze them and go all doe-eyed, doesn’t it? Most of the time, it’s pent up hostility at their parents’ divorce.
I can tell you that the kids are most willing to take out their pent up anger on you…the innocent new girlfriend who just happens to be proof that dad isn’t getting back together with mom. ” Don’t you remember how the twins acted towards dad’s new girlfriend (even though the new girlfriend was hideously rude and had a genuine dislike of kids…that’s not the point)?
Now, I’m not saying to spare his feelings because he loved her once and blah blah blah…
You’re not going to talk badly about his ex because you don’t want your relationship with him to be based on how much you both hate her!
Still, dating a guy who’s been divorced, just like dating a woman who’s been divorced, does come with a certain amount of baggage.
It also comes with a few things you’re going to have to accept without conflict.Here are the 10 most important tips for a smooth relationship with a man who’s been divorced. When visions of your date as the assh*le husband dance through your head, just remember that divorces are rarely any different than the break-up of any other really long relationship; they’re just more expensive.You can’t imagine his ex-wife as the bitchy, nagging psychopath either.Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!If you’re looking for the kind of man who’s going to say “I love you” at first sight, you’re dating the wrong guy.