She said she felt bad that when we were at work all day our kitten did not have a companion. She never cleans up after them, I do all of the work. She worried it would not survive the winter and took the cat in anyway, even though I told her it could have fleas and would not do well with our indoor cats.
She now lives with me in my house, moved in 5 months ago.I had no previous pets so we decided to get a kitten together 5 months ago when she moved in. She lets the kittens do whatever they want, lay on the counter, eat off her plate.One of my crazy cat friends also has a lot of strays in his neighbourhood.What he did was build them several shelters with hay as bedding, and he also catches them and spays/neuters each one. Not like the old hag who sits in front of your local Shop Rite with aluminum foil on her head.3.
An "I got home and told my cat about my day" bond.6. In other words, don't pretend you're allergic if you just don't like when the girl you're dating has a cat.14. Seeing the guy you're dating pick up and cuddle your cat gives you the same (or more intense) feeling as when you see him hold a baby.17.
There are any number of compromises that you can make here, but it sounds like she isn't willing to budge on anything.
I mean if it comes down to it, it's your house so you really could lay down the law, but you've tried to be reasonable. Also, the cats eating off plates thing....ewwwwwwwwwwwwwi would say even further to stop doing all the cat chores completely for one week and then show her: this is not fair to the kitties, we cannot have these cats, they need a better home where they are taken care of, i do not want them.
Am I being a controlling prick like she says or am I right to try and set boundaries here?
I don't want all these cats in my house.tl;dr: My girlfriend hoards stray cats and let them run amuk and do whatever they want.
Because, let's face it, cats are often more emotionally intelligent than men. And they have personalities like any other smart animal does.