We do look at bit funny in public together - as if the odd person is thinking, is that her dad or her boyfriend? I started off thinking, I need to write a post asking for advice how to reject him without hurting our friendship, if it ever comes to that. There might not be a situation arise where you have to deal with rejecting him that is one possible scenario the other is he may never ask, so in my opinion i feel you should decide what you are most sure about.
Because, the thing about spending time with someone is, women tend to fall for the guy. It does NOT make you shallow, and you DO NOT have to apologize for it.It's called Oxytocin, its a chemical released in the brain that causes women to bond to men and babies. I have read alot about it here on Love Shack, and elsewhere. Invest you time volunteering and doing other things, with the thought in mind of meeting guys close to your age, who are cool and pleasant to be around. Trying to find that perfect package in a man is not always easy, however.My parents are 73, and I know how old they look and the health issues they are facing.When I'm 53, I wouldn't want to be married to someone who is 73. It will be a long one - I apologise in advance, and I guess I understand if no one gets to the end, but it will probably help me just to type this all out! I'm reasonably attractive but I don't stop traffic.
I've been single for 3 years now, after I ended a long term relationship that really wasn't working - properly single, no dates, no sex, since my last partner.
Hand on the small of the back, inviting me out to things that aren't related to work, insisting on paying for dinner, texting just to ask how my day is, etc. There are a couple of things that are worrying me about all this. The other reason is pretty shallow, I'm almost ashamed to type it, but I'm talking to strangers so I'm allowed to be honest and hopefully you guys won't judge me too harshly!
It is, of course, entirely possible that I'm flattering myself and he has nothing but platonic intentions! The first is that he is 20 years older than me, and already has three kids. And although I'm not desperate for kids, I aren't yet willing to give up on the idea of having them. The truth is that this guy is shorter than me, physically not conventionally attractive, and nearly as old as my dad.
Since you are 30, and since men by and large tend to be less mature than women, you will probably fit best with a man who is in the age range of 28 - 36. I am very glad you are enjoying being single, that's awesome, and very important. You don't need to apologize to anyone for having physical preferences. YOU DON'T NEED TO APOLOGIZE TO ANYONE FOR HAVING PHYSICAL PREFERENCES.
But all things being equal, if you are going to spend time with someone of the opposite gender, try to let it be someone you could eventually date and have a long term relationship with. Having preferences that you like in a man, whether it be height, hair color, skin color, or penis size, yes I said PENIS SIZE, is all OK.
So think about that when you think through your options.