It is the body of Christ in its mission to proclaim the Gospel and build the kingdom of God that is the direct beneficiary of Paul's spiritual gift of singleness.If the state of being single is not a spiritual gift, neither is the state of being married.I believe God has called me to be single as a vital part of the ministry He has uniquely equipped me to fulfill for His church.
This is a bit tricky because, while Scripture affirms that all believers are given one or more spiritual gifts, few of us have ever received a divine bulletin informing us what our particular gifts are.
Rather, we most often find out by trying different modes of service in the context of ministry.
Take a season off from dating and pursuing the opposite sex, and devote that energy toward a renewed capacity for serving in ministry.
If you are energized with joy in that service, keep going and see where God takes you with it.
Rather, we should view singleness as a spiritual gift.
When, as Christians, we talk about the biblical idea of the "gift" of singleness, we are referring to one reference by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:7 where he says, "I wish that all persons were as I am, but each one has their own gift from God, one has one kind, another has another kind." The Greek word for "gift" here () is the same word used for "spiritual gift" elsewhere in Scripture (1 Corinthians 12:4-31; Romans 12:4-8; Ephesians -13).Peter likewise urges us to use our gifts to serve one another as faithful stewards of the grace of God (1 Peter ).I like to think of a spiritual gift as a God-enabled capacity for service.I believe God sometimes calls us to remain single for the sake of the ministry He has commissioned us to do.God specifically called the prophet Jeremiah to remain single as part of his prophetic ministry (Jeremiah 16:2).The gift of singleness is not a repression or denial of your sexuality.