In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities.
"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend. It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand.He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it."The most appealing thing to a man is a woman who has her own autonomy and strength," Kelman says.
The more he sees that you have a fantastic life of your own, the more likely he'll want to jump in and be a part of it.
Check out a craft beer festival, see a local band at some hole-in-the-wall, or challenge him to a mountain bike race.
A new adventure can fortify your relationship since it gives you shared memories to reminiscence about later, and that stronger bond will increase the likelihood he'll want to keep seeing you, exclusively.
"You want to be the fast-moving car that he wants to jump into, not the one sitting in the parking lot, waiting around," Trespicio says.
Keep up your long runs on the weekends even if he wants to hang out, and don't expect (or nag) him to skip his weekly basketball games in favor of seeing you.
Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.